is a woman that gets drunk and high with an older gentleman twice a month for 9 years having sex also?

There is a woman I am dating. She gets drunk and or smokes pot with her landlord who is 12 years older every other weekend. Turns out this has been going on for nine years. When confronted, her response is she gets high, not him. So it means they are not getting down. My question is, is there anyone out there that thinks they are not having sex also? I am not allowed around when they do this because I don’t get high. yet he doesn’t get high either. but he is allowed to join the party. The phone gets turned off also. Now anyone believe her story? What do you think is happening here??

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36 Responses to “is a woman that gets drunk and high with an older gentleman twice a month for 9 years having sex also?”

  1. cate d Says:

    they are having sex. no doubt about it.

  2. tmb Says:

    Sounds like she is getting busy.

  3. Whitney Says:

    Getting High and Drunk = Sex She is lying when I get high and drunk I get very horny.

  4. ☼ Doodle ☼ Says:

    no..im sorry, but there is definitly something else going on other than getting high.

  5. Nodor Says:

    Does she pay rent?

    No?!?!?!?!?

    Dude, she is pounding his pants every other weekend!!

  6. theWord Says:

    somethings totally up…you shuold pay her a surprise visit one day when she’s doing this- you’ll get to the bottom of it.

  7. astralpen Says:

    Ummm….sound like a custom arrangement for rent payment.

  8. babyface Says:

    not at all, she may not be doing him when she is with you, but she has done him, plenty of times!!!!

  9. Incubus Dreams Says:

    Man, that chic is banging that guy. Don’t be fooled.

  10. Tom Says:

    she should stop smoking pot

  11. LIZA Says:

    Yeah the had sex before. Stay way from druggies. They both plotting a plan to rob you so they could buy more weed.

  12. veeayyell94 Says:

    she is prob. having sex
    but if i were you i wouldnt go out with someone who does drugs, no offense.
    I dont know her so I can’t judge

  13. Mari Says:

    I think she’s having her cake and eating it too (or smoking it actually) and you should leave as fast as you can. I’m sorry but if I can’t be there and you can’t answer your phone, then I don’t want to put up with that mess.

  14. XOhXMissXKissX Says:

    She is deff. Banging him.

  15. Ms. Disobedient... Says:

    he was too quick

  16. dork Says:

    hmm mayb something is going on hpone off her n him but she gets drunk of course something is going on may never know n yea the guy gets high too second hand smoke

  17. BabeHeart Says:

    You asked this 4 months ago http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At91I6uMaTPuYM7xS7zPe8bty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070514125402AArsBAH

    Bottom line is we don’t know what’s going on, you don’t trust her…so why are you still worrying about this 4 months (at least) later?

  18. Melissa S Says:

    Only she knows the answer to that question, ask her and pay close attention to the way she responds.

  19. kevins_whitegurl Says:

    i think if your trust her and love her you should trust and believe her story untill proven other wise. good luck

  20. offical_tailgate_crew_07 Says:

    I think the major fishy thing is the fake they don’t have phones…

    That’s what makes me think they are trying to cover there tracks a bit too much and considering how alcohol and drugs alter your mental state, I’d say its a risky bet.

  21. themeindzeye Says:

    Well, it seems dubious, but she could just be hanging out and partying with him without doing the dirty. *shrug* I can see why the landlord would not want people to know he smoked. He’s probably just saying he doesn’t since he’s a business owner. But really, there’s no telling. It is possible for a lady to have male friends and not sleep with them, even if she does poke smot with them.

  22. Alisha Says:

    tell her to get use to seeing ur tail lights cause thats as close as shell get if she doesnt clean up.

  23. chicks Says:

    Is she also having sex? Surely you already know the answer to your question. If she drinks, smokes pot and parties with this guy, and you are not allowed, I’d say that YES she is probably having sex with him as well! Move on, you can do better for yourself!

  24. future mrs. silac Says:

    Sounds like the rent is due.. and somebody doesn’t have any money. I’d have to be high and drunk for f*** and old man too. UGH! I’d move first.

  25. I know for sure Says:

    Mabye he is just a party friend. It does not automatically mean they are having sex. Given the other facts that you state, it seems likely in this case that they may indeed be having sex but who really knows.

    Why does it matter? Do you have some sort of mutual agreement with her?

    Perhaps she is playing the field.

  26. crazy in kzoo Says:

    go get checked for std’s and get out of there

  27. Lisa S Says:

    Um. That is bizarre. Even more bizarre is that you aren’t out the door. I think that there is something going on.

  28. Talithea H Says:

    I do not know whether you should believe the story because if he does not get high then what is the point of hanging out with him while she gets high,and the next question is if there is nothing going on then why is it that you are not welcome since there is nothing to hind. I would tell her that I want to go or even that she can get high in your presence instead of his.If that is a problem then leave the whole situation alone because this seems like a headache.There are so many women out there who have no secrets and do not get high.

  29. nationofswine Says:

    Most people who are (really) either drunk and/or high are LESS likely to have sex, not more! So it kind of depends how much they are “imbibing”. Why do you care so much, anyway? It’s a free country…well, in theory!

    P.S.: I missed the part about her being your date. If you ask her (which you probably should) whether she’s having sex w/him) and she’s evasive, then yes, she probably is. Are YOU faithful to her? If so, dump her.

    As for the drugs (and I DO include alcohol!), that’s YOUR judgment call. If she’s an alcoholic, that is going to do MUCH more damage to you, her and everything else than any amount of pot she smokes (unless she gets busted, which is a whole DIFFERENT can of worms!).

  30. Melana M Says:

    Her story sounds very fishy. Especially if you are not allowed to be around and her phone gets turned off. Drugs and alcohol lower your inhibitions so she very well be getting with this guy and is telling herself its ok b/c she is high or drunk.

  31. perturbedgenius Says:

    Sounds like you’re getting lied to my friend. Insist that you go to a party. Tell her, you’ve been thinking about it, and you’d like to smoke with her. See what she says.

    There’s obviously something that’s being kept hidden away from you.

    Have you ever met this guy? If not, then you’re probably getting cheated on.

    If she won’t let you into that part of her life then you may not want to pursue this relationship. But that’s just my thoughts. I think a person should be honest with the person they are dating. I’m not saying she’s lieing to you, but if she avoids telling you, or avoids letting you into that world, then she’s hiding something.

    Good luck man. Hopefully you aren’t getting screwed to badly.

  32. tmfbitu Says:

    Does she get free rent?

    Could be anything going on. Maybe she gets stoned and dances for him or cleans his apartment naked or they watch each other get off. Maybe she lets him brush her hair or she paints his toenails. Maybe they talk about you. Maybe they play Scrabble. What they’re doing isn’t nearly as important as what the not-knowing is doing to you.

    But I would say that if this is a bi-monthly occurrence for the last 9 years, it’s more of an arrangement than a relationship. She’s having a relationship with you. If you allow it, that is.

  33. Dee Z Says:

    No they are not necessiarly having sex. I was in the same situation with an ex boyfriend of mine, i was the one (and still am) going to my “older” friends house to get high and we DO NOT have sex. My ex was very jealous of this, however i took him to the friends house so he could see what we really did when he wasn’t there. You need to ask your girlfriend to take you there, to make you aware of what is really going on, so if in fact there is something you could pick up on it. Also ask yourself this.. Does the landlord know about you? if he doesn’t then, there may be something going on, and if she doesn’t let you go over to the house because you don’t “party” then maybe that is just an excuse.

    good luck!

  34. BLOODHOUND Says:

    sorry don’t mean to be rude but she is taking you for a real sucker. i dont know if they are having sex or not but its clear she takes him over you and could care less what you think about it.YOU CAN AND SHOULD DO BETTER.

  35. armysoldierone Says:

    Thats awesome. Your girlfriend is a rent ho.

  36. Marie Says:

    do you think???